Originally posted on my Win, Lose, or Blog blog when I was a Win, Lose, or Blog season seven contestant.
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The subject of weight is such a touchy one. It seems as though it is one of the hardest attributes to accept about yourself. The non-acceptance can then lead to depression or other not healthy feelings which can lead to eating which then exacerbates the problem. It is a horribly vicious cycle. There aren't many/any other attributes about yourself that have such a cycle. So you have a big nose. It isn't like your negative feelings about it can make it any bigger. Or maybe you hate your small lips. Again. . . like your negative feelings about them can make them any smaller.
It is sad that more individuals can't be more accepting of their flaws (weight, nose, lips, etc.). I fall in with the group that is not accepting. For example, I love that I am losing weight. . . I hate that my boobs are shrinking. (Shrinking back fat would be so much better.) But oh well I am getting healthier and that is what is important.
Another thing about weight is how difficult it is to talk about. It can either be a personal issue with talking about it or an issue that another individual may have. I have been on both ends of such conversations. Two things I believe can help those conversations are 1 - if a friend says, "I am fat." Don't brush it off by saying, "No you aren't." That is a legitimate feeling they are having and if they mentioned it then it deserves to be discussed. 2 - Even if you feel your friend doesn't have an ounce to lose you need to acknowledge what they are feeling (just because they look skinny doesn't mean they are at their healthy weight).
I feel that having someone to talk with about my weight and my health has been one of the factors that has helped me the most. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been starting to discuss it more with my spouse. He sees me every day and he knows when my weight fluctuates but it was SO difficult for me to even mention my weight. It is still not my favorite subject but we can talk about my successes and my non successes and I don't feel like crawling in a hole. (Thank you again PE!)